NARCOPIG HAS HIS STALKER EMOTION DETECTIVE AS A FB FRIEND

REMEMBER EMOTION DETECTIVE THE STALKER HAS DONE MORE EVIL THINGS THAN THE SOUNDBOARDS IN THIS VID SAY. AND THIS PROOF WAS FOUND LONG AFTER EMOTION DETECTIVE DID ALL HER SICK DEEDS, INCLUDING THE 3RD VID WHERE SHE TALKED ABOUT TRAVELING TO KILL 2 GIRLS OR 2 BOYS RANDOMLY AND TALKED ABOUT HOW EASY IT IS TO KILL AND GET AWAY WITH IT. ALSO DONNA SLOAN IS EMOTION DET UNDER ANOTHER FAKE NAME, THE NAME AGA AND ALL IS EMOTION DETECTIVE TOO. FOR THOSE WHO DON'T KNOW ABOUT THE FAKE FAMILY EMOTION DETECTIVE (WHO ALSO USES OTHER FAKE NAMES LIKE DONNA SLOAN) THE REASON SHE LIED AND MADE UP A FAKE BAIT FAMILY WAS TO MANIPULATE MY FRIEND INTO GIVING HER ADVICE TO PASS ON TO THE VICTIM (FAKE VICTIM BECAUSE THE WHOLE THING WAS A LIE) SO THAT EMOTION DETECTIVE COULD THEN TURN AROUND AND CONTACT MY FRIEND'S X, LYING TO HIM TOTALLY, AND TELL HIM MY FRIEND WAS DOING TO HIM OR TRYING TO DO WHATEVER SHE ADVISED THIS FAKE VICTIM W/KIDS TO DO. THE FACT IT WOULD HAVE BEEN A LIE 100% DOESN'T FAZE EMOTION DETECTIVE.. SHE JUST WANTED TO CAUSE UPHEAVAL DRAMA AND HARM AS MUCH AS POSSIBLE. SINCE MY FRIEND DIDN'T TAKE EMOTION DETECTIVE'S BAIT EMOTION DET ENDED UP CONTACTING MY FRIEND'S X IN AN EMAIL ANYWAY AND LYING TO HIM ABOUT LOTS OF OTHER THINGS. EMOTION DETECTIVE IS A SICK TWISTED CONNIVING BORDERLINE NARC PSYCHOPATH SHE REALLY IS AS PROVEN BY HER OWN 3RD VID WHERE SHE TALKED ABOUT HOW EASY IT IS TO KILL 2 RANDOM GIRLS OR BOYS AND GET AWAY W/IT.  
March 5, 2016

Tami VerHelst
Vice President
IITAP
P.O. Box 2112
Carefree, AZ 
85377

Re: Kim Iverson, CSAT Ethics Complaint 

Dear Tami –

Hi.  I’m sorry but this is going to be a long document.  I will attempt to be as brief as I possibly can but it is a long horrible story.  I am going to pay for Paul Hartman to speak with you by phone for as long a segment of time that both of you have give to the matter.  I feel confident that he will confirm and verify everything I write about.

Writing about all of this is extremely traumatic for me as I was shattered into a billion pieces by what happened to me.  I have been in tears all afternoon.  

I need to go back to November 11, 2007 when I missed my flight to Jackson, Mississippi due to being in a very similar traumatized and unfocused condition that I have been in since April 26, 2015.  I paid an extra $1,000.00 to get a very late flight to Jackson that night and then paid $85.00 for a taxi trip to Hattiesburg because in my traumatized haze I had let my driver’s license lapse and they would not give me the car I had rented.  I then walked 20 blocks in 90-degree heat and got to the condo where Paul Hartman, Patrick Carnes and Stefanie Carnes lead a wonderful 5-day Men’s Group.  I am not a sexual addict but it was the closest treatment to what I have that I could find.  I could not sit down during most of the 5 days – I paced like a wild tiger.  I was suffering from Narcissistic Abuse Syndrome at that time, from my interactions with an especially hurtful borderline. I just didn’t know it.  I then committed myself to recovery for what I understood to be ‘Relationship Addiction’ and my life stabilized considerably although by May 31, 2008 my 27-year marriage could not be salvaged.

I was 49 years old, single for thee first time, needy and extremely naïve.  Three and a half months after I divorce I met Betsy LAST NAME on Match.com and I very foolishly thought that I had found love.  Betsy was 37 years old at the time, thin, beautiful and she acted very adoring when it came to me.  We were in a relationship by the 2nd date and I moved her into my home 6 weeks after we started dating.  I adored this woman.  Our relationship lasted 6.5 years, 90% of which time she lived in my home with her now 9 year-old son.  On two occasions we were engaged to be married.  Betsy pursued me often via text.  She initiated sex between us about 4 times a week.  I thought we were in a fairly good place in that department.  I knew she had Borderline Personality disorder like my mother but I dismissed that as her moodiness, occasional rage and devaluing that always shifted back to over-idealizing.  We celebrated September 12th as our first date anniversary with trips, cards, flowers, love making, etc.  

Betsy accompanied me to Nashville on two occasions when I was being trained as a CSAT.  She went with me to the best Imago therapist in Indianapolis for 25+ sessions.  I paid for Group Therapy and Individual Therapy for her.  I did put her out of my house on three occasions due to her rage.  I called the police to my house on 7 occasions when she would physically hold me down (the way my mother used to do).  She was physically abusive to me on several occasions.  She threw a remote control at my head and broke it once.  Things were crazy and unstable but every time that I would put her out of my house I would seek her back – I was addicted to her.

In late February of 2015 I was extended an offer to go to The Bridge to Recovery for a free week of Intensive therapy with other treatment professionals.  That was a magical week of great therapy.  Kim Iverson wasn’t with our group a lot but she did spend time wiping away my tears the last few days of my treatment there.

On March 14, 2015 I paid for a moving truck to move Betsy’s belongings to a local apartment that I had committed to pay for until August.  I paid the deposit, the utility deposits, some back rent and I gave her $3,000.00 in furniture and I was providing her with an SUV.   From March 14th until May the 4th I continued to date Betsy and to be sexually intimate with her.  My hope was that we could repair our fractured relationship.

I became suspicious that she was involved with another man so I checked the phone records and sure enough a co-worker’s number, Steve LAST NAME’s number came up a million times.  I told Betsy on April 25th that I was done with her because I knew about her involvement with this man.  She emailed me on the morning of April 26th saying that she had gone to church that day, that God had spoken to her, that she did not want to lose me and she begged me to meet with her for dinner that night and she would explain what she termed as her “emotional affair”.  She swore on the recent graves of her grandparents that her affair had not been physical in any way.  When I showed up at 7pm Sunday, April 26th at my favorite restaurant, Charleston’s I had no idea what kind of horrific trauma was waiting for me.  After lying for an hour Betsy said that she “had a crush on Steve since the beginning and that she had started to have sex with him within weeks of meeting me in the fall of 2008.   I was destroyed.  I am still in shock 10.5 months later.  

The following is a letter, a confession if you will that Betsy wrote out by hand.  I typed it up and added about 20% to what she had written with information that she shared with me verbally.  To understand this situation and me you will need to read the whole confession…

On Sunday morning April 26th I went to church and God spoke to me and said that it was time for me to stop lying, stop my secret life, stop sinning and come clean about my addiction. Mark knew in his heart that I was involved with someone but he could not have imagined the level of depravity and betrayal I was capable of.  I swore to Mark on the graves of my grandmothers that I was not cheating on him.  Thank you for coming.  I am here to come clean.  I am here to tell you the monster that I have been for so long.  I am 100% committed to Recovery for this addiction.  I love Mark and I am 100% committed to him.  I ask every one of you to hold me accountable from this day forth.  

I was assigned at Roche Laboratories as a temp to be trained by Steve LST NAME (age 31), in October 2008 when I was 37 years old. I had just begun my relationship with Mark on September 12, 2008 and I moved into his home within days of meeting Mr. Fahlsing.  From the beginning, Mr. LAST NAME and I were attracted to each other. At first, we just flirted. This included typing sexual IM's to each other. I lied to myself and said that is was innocent - that I could control it. In less than two weeks, we were kissing. We would find places at work where no one could see us and we could make-out. The area where he trained me one-on-one was totally secluded from other people  I lied to myself again and told myself that I could control it. I tried to quit several times, but by this time, my sexual addiction had already taken over. 

The first time that we ever had intercourse was a very shameful incident. I was driving home from my nieces band concert, and I texted him to see if I could come over. I lied to myself saying that nothing was going to happen. I was just stopping by to say, "Hi." I admit to all of you now that I made the choice that day, December 4, 2008 to willingly and willfully have sexual intercourse with him.  After that, it all kind of blends together. 

Not one single month went by since October of 2008 that we did not at least engage in highly sexual IM's. We would go out to lunch and after lunch, on at least 30 occasions, we would find a parking lot and make out. He would masturbate while looking at me. He would finger me then lick his fingers. He would ask to kiss my feet while he masturbate. I remember one time he paid me $100 once for doing this. He would put his finger in my ass then lick it. There were two occasions that we found a parking lot and we had intercourse.  There were countless times, probably well over 750, that we got together to either: make-out, have oral sex, he would masturbate while looking at me, or we would have intercourse. I would get off work early just to go to his house. I would go before picking up Cody from school. 

Ever since December of 2014 I even started going over to his house in the morning. I would get up between 3:30 and 4:00 in the morning just to go have sex with him before work. I would ignore Mark and shortchange Cody both the nights I went to bed so early and the next several days that I was so tired.  There were times at his house that he would have me watch porn while he performed oral sex on me.  He would lick my anus while he masturbated. There were times that he wanted me to just stand there fully clothed with my back to him ignoring him while he masturbated. I did this for money but it was also a turn on for me.  He constantly told me how pretty and sexy I was and how much he loved my body. My body was an object for him.  He had a sick fetish for my butt and my long legs.  I know that he did not care about me at all.  My self-esteem fed on that. 

There were other times where he would stick other things up in my vagina. Things such as a banana, a thinner curved out part of his bass guitar, the knob off of his gear shift, and a vibrator. There were two times that he had me vibrate on him while he laid in his bath tub and masturbated. He would have me pee in a cup and then he would pay me $200 for the urine. He would either drink it or pour it on himself while he masturbated. He would pay me to give him underwear that I had already worn. 

There were also several occasions that we would go out to eat at a restaurant, and then he would take me shopping. He would also sometime give me money for having intercourse with him and for performing and receiving oral sex. He 'got off' on giving me his money. There were times that he wouldn't pay his bills so that he could pay me money. He did this a lot the year that I lived in Noblesville. He knew that I was struggling financially, and he used this in his favor. 

There were two times on a weekend that I told Mark that I was meeting a friend when I actually meet Steve. I met him in a parking lot and we kissed and groped.

I have had considerably more sexual encounters with Mr. LAST NAME since October of 2008 than I have with Mark.  And I have had A LOT of sex with Mark - much more than most married couples have.  Almost always I was the one who initiated the sex between me and Mark.  

On at least 50 occasions, if not many times more than that I had sexual intercourse with both Mr. LAST NAME and Mark on the same day.

Three years ago Mark asked me to take care of a car repair for my car instead of him doing it for me.  I sent to Steve to have him look at it.  He could not fix it.  We did have oral sex that night and I did not get home until 10:30pm.  Mark was very upset when I got home.  I told him that I was at Steve's house.  He accused me having sex with him at that time.  I cried, looked disheveled and said no and I said I was sorry.  Mark ended up paying for the car repair.  Mark agrees that unconsciously he could not handle knowing the truth.   

I have sent naked photos of myself to Mr. Fahlsing.  I recently sent near topless photos of myself to Mr. Fahlsing.  Then I sent copies of those same photos to Mark.  

At least 100 times but probably many more than that I crawled into bed with Mark with Mr. Fahlsing's semen inside me. 

I was depressed, I let dishes stack up to the ceiling, my house was a wreck, I ignored Cody but counting my 'work time' I always had 50 to 70 hours a week to devote to my addiction. 

Mark took me to Myrtle Beach from April the 3rd until April the 11th.  He took me to nice restaurants, we had a really good time and we made love.  But I was texting Steve all day every day while in Myrtle Beach.  On April 12th, the first day back from the beach I invited Mr. LAST NAME to spend the night at my apartment.  We had intercourse that night and then that morning.  I told him that I loved him that morning, the 13th. 

I had no time to complete my move from Mark's house to my apartment, leaving a big mess in his guest bedroom, but I did have time to have sex in that apartment that night.  Mark paid ALL the apartment rent and deposits, he gave me a brand new living room suite and the bed I betrayed him in.  I had sex with Mark on three occasions in that same apartment I was having sex with Steve.    
            
I remember one occasion where he paid me $500 to model swimsuits for him while he masturbated. 

I never used a condom during all of this time, thus exposing Mark to STD's.  

I have been caught in 26 lies to Mark since I started to tell him the truth on Sunday.  Every time I lie and then finally tell the truth I know that I re-traumatize Mark.  

I did try and stop, but I had so much shame that I couldn't tell anyone. I lied to my therapist, I lied to Mark, and I lied to myself. If I would have come clean back then, I would have already gotten the help that I needed. I am a very, very sick person. I am so sick of shame and guilt and take out on those that I love most. In November I attempted suicide due to all of my shame and guilt.  I then told Mark that I had made the attempt upon my life due to him.  

I was extremely mean to Mark and he didn't deserve any of it. I constantly criticized him and raged at him.  I lied to myself that what I was doing was somehow okay - that I had it under control - that I could quilt. I should have come clean the first time that I tried to quit and then ended up doing it again. I shouldn't have done it in the first place. 

I should have never done this to Mark. I do not deserve Mark or his love. He has always been very good to me.  I am still going to get treatment, and I am going to do the work - no matter how painful. I pray that someday Mark can find it in his heart to forgive me. Deep down in me heart of hearts under all of my sickness and shame, I do love Mark. His country girl with the heart of gold is buried in there very deeply. I am going to a facility called 'The Bridge To Recovery' to find her again. I hope and pray that Mark will still be there when she comes back.

I ask God for forgiveness.  I ask each one of you for forgiveness.  I have lied to each and every one of you many times.  I am so sorry.  

I was more than shell-shocked.  Paul Hartman said that the trauma that I went through as a significant other of a sexual addict was the worst that he had ever seen because of the graphic details that I had haunting my brain.  

Tami, are you familiar with ‘Narcissistic Abuse Syndrome’?  It is a concept that eventually helped me understand what had happened.  After discovering this syndrome in early December of 2015 I made the following YouTube video on December 13th…  ‘50 Symptoms Of Narcissistic Abuse Syndrome’ https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=VFhty3ruqKw  As of today it has been viewed over 48,250 times.  It is 29 minutes long.  It would explain a great deal of the life-threatening trauma that I went through.  

From April 26th until May 4th when I dropped Betsy off at The Bridge To Recovery she was rarely out of my sight.  I am not going to white wash my behaviors.  That would be wasting your time.  I was suffering from Complex PTSD.  My hands trembled, I could not eat, I could not sleep, I tried to work but then needed two months off, I had a deep pain in my chest, I had frequent nightmarish panic attacks, my brain was foggy, I was filled with rage, I cried non-stop and these were just a few of my symptoms.  Betsy delivered all of her information to me with absolutely zero empathy or remorse.  My life had turned into the worst nightmare I had ever heard of but it was real.  As an infant I was severely abandoned by both of my parents.  My mother left me in the back yard to scream and rage as an infant.  I never bonded with my mother.  I believe this is why I picked someone like Betsy to ‘love’.  

The 2nd night after telling me of her behavior Betsy very flippantly said, “I texted him on December 3rd, then I went to his house, subconsciously I didn’t think anything would happen but we had sex.”  She said this like she was talking about the weather.  This was just 7 weeks after I moved her into my home.  I slapped Betsy in the side of her head and then I threw a remote control at her.  The remote hit her in the eye and gave her a significant black eye.  That 1.3 seconds of violence was the only time I have ever been physical with a woman.  She had physically abused me on multiple occasions.  The manner in which she unremorsefully accounted her pursuing him for intercourse just made my mind snap.  Her unremorseful continue barrage of porno sick details continued through out the week.  I did spit in her face on three occasions but did not otherwise become violent.  

On Monday May the 4th I delivered Betsy to The Bridge.  She looked into my eyes deeply and she told me that she loved me.  In a letter she wrote about that good-bye by saying that there was no place that she would rather then with me, in love with me.  I met with Kim Iverson for 1.5 hours that day.  I saw her as my therapist too.  I read her the ‘confession’ and I cried profusely.  She emphasized that she was concerned about any ‘abuse’ that might have taken place.  She was referring to the 1.3 seconds of physical abuse.  She seemed unconcerned about the 6.5 years of monstrous sexual, psychological, emotional and financial abuse that Betsy had perpetrated upon me.

Here is my complaint about Kim Iverson – she was biased, clueless, incompetent, uncaring, rude, insensitive and easily manipulated by a very cunning anti-social personality disordered woman.  She presented The Bridge as a family systems treatment center and Betsy had signed full releases for both Paul Hartman and myself.  But they were not a family systems facility.  They were 100% medical model.  They guarded and protected Betsy’s interests like they were her lawyers.  I was Betsy’s family.  She had lived with me for 6.5 years.  I paid all of her bills.  I cared for her son.  I had that 1.5-hour meeting with Kim on May the 4th.

Here were possible paradigms in assessing what was going on with Betsy and I when The Bridge became involved.  I believe in paradigm #1 – clearly Betsy has both Anti-Social Personality Disorder and Borderline Personality Disorder.  I foolishly invited her into my life when she never genuinely loved me.  She is a con artist and a gold digger.  And yes, absolutely she is a prolific sexual addict.  But the sexual addiction is not the main, correct diagnosis.  The last 8 days I was with Betsy it became evident that she was a different person that I had never met before.  She held her body differently.  Her voice was different.  Her narcissistic mask had slipped off and what I saw was an arrogant, angry, victimy woman who was NOT sorry for all of her sexual acting out but someone who rather blamed me for controlling her with money.  I thought she loved me and I loved her.  She chose to act a role and sell her life for money – I was not aware of this – it came as quite a shock.  

So paradigm #2 is ‘Love and Sex Addict’, which is the diagnosis that Betsy eventually got during the 3rd week of her treatment.  

For the first three weeks the brilliant therapists at The Bridge were treating her for their diagnosis of her condition – domestic violence victim!  OMG, that was so far from the actual true diagnosis of Betsy and I’s situation.  If a man had showed up with that 6 pages confession and zero remorse and his wife had thrown a remote control at him and he had a black eye do you think the first 3 weeks would have been spent on his being a domestic violence victim?  It was blatant sexism and bias.  

After just a few days The Bridge requested that I not contact Betsy and informed me that she would not be communicating with me.  There was a lot of very negative energy that was coming out of that place.  Betsy’s personal therapist, Paul Markle sent me an aggressive, cold, harsh email telling me to not call the treatment center.  Betsy’s family all started to be mean and aggressive towards me.  Rather than Betsy being treated for her being a con artist and a genuine psychopath the message I got from the treatment center is that she was the victim and I WAS THE BAD GUY!

I called Kim Iverson and begged for information about what was going on with Betsy’s treatment.  I was so broken and so traumatized that I became suicidal as a direct result of being vilified by the treatment center.  When I told her this she coldly said my near suicide was not on her and then she said that she had to go – she refused to take my calls thereafter.  

I had no frame of reference as to what was going on.  I worked hard in therapy with Paul Hartman.  I did two workshops at Onsite and then spent two weeks in Onsite’s Residential Treatment Center.  Before I went to Michigan in early June for an Intensive with Paul I was unhinged, full of rage, irrational and on the verge of suicide.  One night I got a very large knife and I did go looking for this Steve LAST NAME character.  Tami, it was like Barney Fife going on a killing spree.  I informed someone what I was doing, they called my son, he called the police and when the police arrived at the wrong address that I mistakenly thought was LAST NAMES’s house I honestly thought they were going to hug, hold and cradle me.  They were sweet and kind and nurturing.  Obviously no charges were filed.  

I am a very nice and gentle man.  I’ve never hurt anyone in my life.  Betsy was being told by Kim Iverson and the rest of her untrained Domestic Violence treatment team that she needed to never see me again, that I was going to kill her and that she needed to get a restraining order against me.  Betsy was never in one moment of danger fro me.  

In my unhinged state I did break into Betsy’s email and send that confession to everybody on her email list.  Yes, I was acting crazy but if I had the support, respect and affirmation of that treatment center none of that would have happened.  But I needed for people to know who she was and what she did.  I would call the treatment center in the middle of the night and howl like the wounded animal that I was.  

Paul Hartman was told in early June that he would be in charge of Betsy’s aftercare plan and the center of that plan would be intensive couple’s therapy between Paul, Betsy and I.  Then on June 11th Betsy dropped the release of information rights for Paul and I and then sent me a letter telling me if I ever contacted her again that she would get a restraining order against me.  I was in a treatment center.  I did not contact her but she did get the restraining order anyway.  Kim Iverson lied to Paul Hartman.  He was never going to be in charge of Betsy’s aftercare plan.

I would not be surprised if Betsy told them that she actually loved Steve and then they supported them as a couple.  For all I know they live together.  I now that they work together still.  She went there for sexual addiction treatment but then my 3 weeks of unhinged behavior because I was on fire with rejection, powerlessness and abandonment the focus of the treatment became getting her away from the monster – me.  She was the victim.  She conned the treatment center.  

Here is what I believe needed to happen.  When it became clear to the treatment staff that the Betsy I knew I thought I loved did not exist this should have been explained to Paul “Betsy was in it for the money, she is obsessed still with Steve, she never loved Mark, she is a dangerous Cluster B”.  Then my healing could have begun.  But no information came out of that treatment center – just lies and me being vilified.  There was zero understanding on their part of Narcissistic Abuse Syndrome or C-PTSD that made a normally kind, rational, sweet man in recovery act like a nut.  

Kim Iverson and The Bridge to Recovery empowered a very dangerous, remorseless, vicious, lying, using, conscious-less emotional monster while they stonewalled the victim of her horrific mind fucking.  And they are clueless to this day.  They made a monster many times more dangerous and monstrous.  Their lack of insight and lack of empathy towards me have been STUNNING.  I have sent them some of my videos and I got only one dismissive reply from Kim.  Here is a video in which I explain the Narcissistic Abuse I suffered at the hands of The Bridge and Kim Iverson…  ‘8 Traits Of Narcissistically Abusive Organizations’ https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=fKYZzPJBm00

Paul Hartman was proposing polygraphs, a tracker on Betsy’s phone and further investigation into her sexual addiction, which I believe included many other men.  I found 14 e-mail addresses on my computer that Betsy had been using.  Betsy had no intention of having any accountability – she had sucked me dry of narcissistic supply and she did not need me anymore.  Betsy threw mw away like I was a piece of garbage.  She didn’t say goodbye.  We woke up next to each other for 6.5 years.  She knew I was no danger to her.  She just discarded me because it was easier for her to do it that way.   

I did take back the furniture, the car, a bike, an Ipad and a laptop from Betsy.  I felt like she had defrauded me financially.  This enraged her.  She felt as if she had earned those things.  Her family was in a rage about that.  I shut down her apartment – I was no longer going to pay for her place to have sex with him.  She had this man in my house many, many times.  He kept clothes in my drawers.  I found two of his shirts.  Some of my clothes are missing including my ‘The Bridge To Recovery’ shirt.  I bet that was funny to them.  

The 2nd day Betsy was at The Bridges Kim Iverson said that she thought Betsy was telling 100% the truth.  Paul Hartman said that it would be the first time in treatment history if that were the case.  I don’t think the confession cover even 50% of all that Betsy did.  She was in contact with 5 to 10 men the last several months I knew her.  She was shopping for another sugar daddy – perhaps she found one?

Also, I believe that Kim Iverson used clinical information gleaned from my week of treatment at the Bridges in February 2015 to further taint her incorrect diagnosis.  While I do not have NPD I am certainly on the spectrum.  You’ve met me – there is some insecurity, some self-centeredness, some grandiosity, etc.  But I have empathy and a conscious.  But I think that Kim used that impression to vilify me.  

It is 10.5 months later and I am fine.  My practice is thriving as never before.  I work with Narcissistic Abuse Syndrome victims from all around the world.  This will turn out to be the best thing that has ever happened to my career.  My PTSD symptoms are about 80% better.  I am digging out of the debt caused by not working for 2 months and then spending $40,000 on treatment.  I am thriving.  My prospects with women are many times greater than anything that Betsy ever gave me.  I was not victimized.  I recruited Betsy and I cooperated with her con game.  I view all of this as a blessing in disguise.   

Here is my concern though.  I am afraid that Kim Iverson and The Bridge to Recovery with misdiagnose another female predator with a vulnerable codependent husband and he might not be as strong as I was and he might kill himself.  When Kim lowered the boom and quit lying about Paul Hartman doing couple’s counseling she had Paul admonish me to not show up at The Bridge looking for trouble.  That was their mindset.  I wouldn’t do that in a million years.  Are you kidding me?  That is how they saw me.  I am seeking no revenge on this sick Steve character or on Betsy.  I pity them.  Kim saw the black eye and she made up her mind that the victim was Betsy.  I had a thousand times the damage to my heart, spirit, body and soul than Betsy had to her eye.  Kim was heartlessly unaware of that due to her clear sexist bias.    

I want an apology from both Kim Iverson and from Paul Markle.

I want for them to get some training in Narcissistic Abuse Syndrome and C-PTSD.  

I want to be acknowledged that they completely fucked this case up.  And they hurt Betsy in the process too; that is also the sad thing.   

Talk with Paul – he will confirm every single word that I have written.  Kim Iverson is a danger to clients and patients – but especially to their significant others.  Some thing needs to be done about it.  

Here are some other videos that I have made that are reaching people as over the world…

50 Symptoms Of Narcissistic Abusers https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=lCyLk1TVbMA

Narcissistic Monsters With Human Faces https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=H6mBKlwcfeE

"A-Ha" Epiphanies About Narcissistic Abuse https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=xxKMZhdcQ0E

Had Kim Iverson and The Bridge to Recovery known and understood Narcissistic Abuse Syndrome and if they could have recognized that Betsy meets every criterion for both Borderline Personality Disorder and Anti-Social Personality Disorder except one then they could have been a helpful resource for me during the most painful time of my life.  My pain over the abuse from the treatment center was worse then the narcissistic abuse from Betsy.  They kicked a good man while he was down.  They didn’t do this out of meanness – I am sure that they are good people and well-meaning therapists.  It is just that when you are a hammer then everything looks like a nail.  When a recovering female sex addict saw the black eye and then God knows what lies Betsy told them then I became the bad guy and I WAS NEVER THE BAD GUY IN THIS SITUATION!!!

Thank you for reading this.  Please talk with Paul.  It is ok if you process this with anyone in your organization.  I think Patrick knows what kind of man I am.  Honestly, I just need to be heard and to not feel so powerless after the debacle of how the mishandled this case.  An acknowledgment and an apology from Kim would be incredibly healing for me.  I would be glad to sign any waiver of liability – it isn’t about that.  I just need to know that they know what they did and I need to know that they won’t do it again.

Sincerely,

Mark Smith, LCSW